Infant Son And His Dad?

ok my sons father has not provided anything for him in his almost 11 months didnt start paying child support until it was court orderd for the first time last month ( i could ask for 20 bucks for diapers and he says i dont have ne money but when i ask how our son is and what he ate for dinner hes remark is ralley’s burger and frys i am trying to collect disabity so i have no income) and infact while i was preg. he never bought ne thing he made the remark thats what baby showers r for needless to say i had my son at 28 1/2 weeks and never got to have a baby shower. He expects to pay me child support and have me support our son while he is staying with him. use my carseat my formula wipes clothes diapers bottles drop in for bottles. he uses all these things of mine and then has no toys or bedding for my son not even a high chair and when i informed him our son is no longer eatting jar baby food he eats what i eat he kinda got mad that now he has to provide him food ie he cant afford ne thing supposedly so im at a lost. he has only bought him a blanket when he was in the nic ward and my sons now 11 months he finally bought a carseat which my son will be to big for in .04 oz ( he weights 19.6 lbs car seat holds up to 20 lbs) but the only reason why he bought it is because his girlfriend is preg. so this will be a carseat they can use when she has the baby.what do i do am i wrong for telling him he cant get our son until he can provided his own clothes diapers formula proper carseat and bedding not his bed but a crib. i am at a loss of what to do i really think this is an unstable place for my son. needless to say he lives with his girlfriend her 10 yr old daughter he has visiation with his other 4 yr old son and he has a friend that lives on the couch a grown man 25 yrs old plus my son and the baby thats almost here in a 2 bedroom apt. what would u do if this was your child would u cont. to provide things for his house after all he does pay child support it a fighting battle but he does pay

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Wow my name is Nicki too spelled the same that has never happened to me b4. Anyway I definetly wouldn’t let m go there you can take him to court again and ask for him to only be able to see him at your house or to meet at a public place. He sound slike quite the sperm donor. You have to think of the well being of your child and his safty and it does’nt sound like daddy’s is the place to be.

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Wow, he has 3 babies with 3 different baby mama’s .. that’s not good.
He’s obviously not intelligent enough to figure out what is causing these pregnancies. He’s gonna have to start covering his stump the next time he wants to hump!
Sounds like this guy can barely take care of himself, he definitely doesn’t need to be spreading his seed.
If I were you, I’d INSIST on ‘SUPERVISED VISITATION ONLY’ when it comes to him seeing the child.
You don’t want your child to get left with a man that is complaining about feeding him.
You have to contact the court system in your area and INSIST that it’s NOT in the best interest of the child for him to have unsupervised visits with his father. INSIST that the father is unfit and he is to ONLY have ’supervised visitation’ .. meaning, a social worker has to be present during his visits with his son.
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I’m going to be blunt and speak my mind and it will not be pretty. This man already had a child with another women, I assume he is not responsible with his other son. What made you think he would be responsible with you? you got yourself in this situation. It is so clear that this man does not want anything to do with your child….he doesn’t even want to feed him because he has no money but yet he has another women pregnant. Sounds to me this man is a total loser and your son will be better of with out him. It is good that you file for child support now all you got to do is file a petition for supervise visitation rights.

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I’d say that is pretty normal minus the wipes and diapers. My step-daughter comes to our house and her mother sends her with stuff even though we tell her it’s not necessary. The only thing she doesn’t send normally is wipes and diapers although she did when he just had visitation during the day from 8am to 9pm she would usually send at least diapers (usually not enough but at least one or two) and sometimes a can or soup or snacks. Now that we have her for the weekend she doesn’t send that with her. She just sends her with a bag of clothing every once in a while she will include a toy or blanket. She would also send her carseat if we needed it, like the first time we ever had her she was already in her carrier when we showed up and he said no that is ok I have my own carseat so she just took her out. Mostly all the stuff you are wondering about besides the carseat aren’t permanent things like your son will stop having formula and a bottle soon probably in a month so you will no longer have to send these things. Clothing though is understandable. I mean yes we have clothing for my step-daughter here for her to use even though her mother sends her with her own. However the clothing we have never gets much use cause little kids change sizes so quick. So there have been many items she only wore once or not at all so it’s kind of a waste of our money. About the carseat some carriers go to 24 pounds so his might. Also you have to look at it this way you send a carseat you know is safe and appropriate. He may go get one at a yardsale just to be cheap that is outdated or has been in an accident. As for the bed I would ask him when he plans to get a bed for your son and tell him he at least needs a pack-n-play and blankets. As for toys I would send one or two with. I mean his Dad may be a jerk for not having any but I would still want him to have stuff to play with at his house. If you are worried about not getting them back then go to a yardsale and buy a few for cheap, wash them up, and send them with. Then you will know he has something to play with and you don’t have to worry about losing a bunch of money on toys you don’t get back. He is probably right though if he is paying support on two children plus expecting and taking care of himself, his mooching friend, gf, and her kid then he doesn’t have a lot of extra. I wouldn’t worry so much about the high chair and that kind of thing. My friend has two children and she has never had a high chair. She always held her daughters or put them in a stationary toy to feed them and once they got to be about a year she would just feed them on floor (not like the kitchen floor or anything) she would make a plate and set it in front of the coffee table or she would just feed them and have them sit on her lap. I’ve done it before when I was at someone’s house that doesn’t have children I don’t think it’s too fun but it’s doable.

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If he is not providing for the child properly then no he has absolutely No right to see your son until he gets his act together. This guy is ridicules.. Not to mention is the new gf he got pregnant just a total fool for not seeing him for the dead beat dad he is!?!

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i wouldn’t supply him with anything; it’s his responsibility to take care of him when he has him, that’s not time he’s paying support for..he’s paying support for the time he’s with YOU…he needs to get off his butt and buy the supplies needed and i would call him up ahead of time and tell him you wont be sending any diapers, wipes, extra clothing, etc…so he has a few days to go to the store….what a wuss of a man..
eta: what if something happens and they have a car accident, nothing bad, but where u would have to buy a new car seat? just say no…

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that is bs.it makes me so mad to even hear that.he needs to grow up.even if he doesnt buy anything for you to take home for your use.it should be expected that at his home he can supply the baby with nessesitys to care for him.you should be able to give him a naked baby no diaper or any thing and he sould be able to clothe him transport him bathe him and put him to bed.god forbid anything were to happen to you but in the situation something did what the heck would he do?that is scary that someone that ignorate can end up being the primary caregiver.i would defiantly lay down some serious rules before he took your son again. good luck!

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