I have a very important question I want to ask all mothers.. Please respond if you have an toddler!?
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Question: I have a very important question I want to ask all mothers.. Please respond if you have an toddler!?
My daughter is 2 1/2 and lately she has been touching her private part. She even takes objects and puts it down there. It is freaking me out. She is not around any men. She does have an uncle who is 13 yrs old but they are never left alone unattended. And the only other time she is out of my sight, is when she is at school. Is this normal for her to be doing this? I am really scared that someone could have touched her because how would she know to put things in that spot. For example, she would have a barbie doll, and would take the dolls legs and rub it against her vagina area.. Please let know if any of your children does this or if this is normal.. Thank you and please only serious answers!!!
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Answer by Angiela W
my 3 1/2 and 2 1/2 both did it i just told them that it was not nice, bad and very nasty and they finally stopped!
Answer by Indiana Raven
I have two boys.. Mine has been playing with himself off and on since he was 2 and now 4 he still does this from time to time and i know no one has touched him. It does seem odd that she is putting things down there or rubbing things against herself.. You should talk to her doctor about this and get his point of view on the matter.
Answer by thesweetestthings24
Well, it is not abnormal. Children get curious about their private place. This is especially so if they there is a parent of the opposite sex around. They want to know the difference. talk to her about it.
Answer by Shelby
Hmhmmm I doubt anyones touched her, Kids do things like that at that age, without knowing what there doing.
She will grow out of it, I have a girl, and she does some stuff like that, and I watch her every moment I can,but I do gotta admit that is a little strage for a two and a half year old.
Answer by Dalice Nelson
I wish I could see your other questions.
Yes, it’s normal. SOme girls begin masturbating very young. It’s not SEXUAL. There is no SEXUAL for 2 year olds. It just feels good so she’s going for it.
When she does it just let her know that if she wants to touch her “bottom”, then she should go in her room. Don’t make a big damn deal about it.
Answer by Chell927
My daughter never used objects on herself, but around this age she would touch herself. I asked her doctor about it and she said it was actually pretty normal since they are ‘fascinated’ by their body in this stage of life. As long as she doesn’t portray any other “weird” behaviors, I wouldn’t worry. Just keep an eye on her so she doesn’t damage her privates.
Answer by fffgel
It’s normal….and please DO NOT tell her it’s bad or nasty or anything like that! She will grow up with issues!
Answer by hot moma
she is just discovering herself.. if you believe someone has been touching her..take her to the doctor..she is just curious..In fact it is normal for toddlers to touch themselves..I heard about it on the oxygen channel..talk sex with sue johanson
Answer by ab
I used to work in a daycare and there were kids that did that kind of stuff too. She is at an age where it is common. I think freud, a psycologist, said it was called tthe anal stage of life.
Answer by PharmNerd
I have boys and all of them touch themselves at some point. It is natural for toddlers to explore themselves. Use this time to explain to her that no one should be touching her there. Tell if to come to you if they do, also explai to her that it is ok to ask questions. I also told my boys if they want to touch down there to go to their room. That way they won’t be ashamed of exploring but they know not to do it in front of other people.
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It is a natural thing for children to explore their body. It is NOT nasty or very bad. I just explain to my 2 yr old that he needs to do that in his own, private time to himself and to NEVER touch anyone else in their private areas.
dont be freaked out. Let her explore herself and if she has questions, then answer them.
It’s normal. My daughter will be 3 in August. She sometimes does things like that. When we change her diaper sometimes she puts her hands down there. I asked her pediatrician and she said it’s normal. I don’t think she has to be around men, they are just exploring. My daughter has only been around her daddy, and when she does that in front of him, he freaks out and has to leave the room! I just tell her that it’s not polite to touch her tootie in front of people. I really don’t know of another way to get them to stop. You don’t want to freak them out and make them think it’s dirty though. That can really confuse them when they get older. I’ve learned that it’s best to just go with the flow. She’ll stop doing it in front of you, or she’ll just stop alltogether. In a few months there will always be something else strange that they do!!! I guess that’s what we have to live with when we have toddlers! My friend has a little boy, and I’m glad I have a daughter. She said that sometimes when she changes his diaper, he gets an erection. That would freak me out!!!
I heard that it is normal for kids to expiriment with their privates. They realize that it feels funny to tickle it with their hands or objects. My 2 1/2 yo daughter used to touch it while I changed her diapers(she was about 2 then). I told her that only Mommy should touch that, so she doesn’t anymore. But, kids are extremely curious, so even if you explain to her, she might continue(just as an adult would masturbate-for the feeling). Just keep telling her that that area is special and gentle, and no one should touch it(don’t tell her her body parts are nasty). You can look inside of her vagina and see if her heimen(sp?) is still intact. You shouldn’t be able to see into her vagina, there should be pink skin covering it. If your gut tells you that your child has been abused, take her to the doc.
i have 4 boys and an 11 month old girl, so my experience is with boys, but at that age boys play with themselves constantly, it is a passing phase, i would guess it is the same for girls, i don’t think i would worry, you could bring it up to the doctor, i always taught my boys it is like picking there nose don’t do it in front of people, i think she is just discovering herself
i think it is very normal , she just found a part of her body that she has not know was there , be careful not to scold her too harshly she will be very paranoid about her vagina and then she will be very insecure . as she gets older , telling her its nasty is not the way to go . just ignore it , i have learned the more u tell a kid no the more they do it , she will be fine and forget about it, i have 3 children 2 boys and a girl , she did it shes now 3
this is normal…just one of the developmental stages that evry toddler has to go through.
here:
Stage Three: the PHALLIC STAGE
This stage lasts from about the age of three to the age of five or six. The Source of Pleasure is from touching the genitals. Parental Prohibition of this is common, by the parents and against the impulses of the Id. Children observe the differences between males and females: their awakening sexual impulses may take the opposite-sex parents as their objects.
this also explains why a little girl usually preferrs her dad, and the little boy clings to mom.
if you wanna know deeper visit this link:
warning: it’s a bit deep, but just try to read through it and you’ll surely get the whole idea
http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/psychosexualdev_4.htm
I have boys not girls but I do have 2 nieces, so I do know that this behavior is very normal. My son is 16 months old and he has recently “discovered himself” as well.
It is just an experimenting time. She prob. won’t do any harm to herself, ut keep a close eye on how detailed she gets, and if you feel someone did touch her inappropriately then report the teacher (or whoever) and take her to a counselor (there are some that specialize in this field)as far as the rubbing things against herself she may have an infection (and it itches) maybe try taking her to the dr.
This is completely normal-as long as she isn’t inserting anything into herself she isn’t going to cause any damage-all children do this-some use hands or stuffed animals or in your daughters case-whatever is around. Just let her know that it is something she can only do in private, such as in her bedroom. Don’t tell her that it’s nasty or bad bc she will have a huge complex later in life!!!
Don’t worry about, that’s completely normal and it’s not a sexual thing. Here’s a secret prosecutors don’t want you to know – if your child is comfortable doing these things around you, the chances of her having been abused are very low. An abused child would be ashamed of that entire area. She’s just exploring. If you are still concerned, you need to be talking to a psychologist.
I was reading the answers everybody else posted.
My son is almost 3, and he also is “playing” with himself…. I think it’s normal, he looks at his “wii – wii” while in the potty, so he is not at the public eye.
They do it because it feels good, but they don’t understand about it.
Just keep in eye on her
I have a 31/2 and a 19 month old boys my older son went through a period were he would pull and fiddle with his wee wee but that has passed my 19 month old does any time he doesn’t have his diaper on and they say its normal for kids to be curious about whats down there and to not make to big of a deal to them about when there doing it just try and get there focus on doing something else. As far as being abused if all shes doing is being curious about her private area then i wouldn’t be to concerned but if when she started doing that her behavior changed to like be with drawn and never was before or extrema mood change that she didn’t have before, trouble sleeping and it wasn’t a problem before that type of thing and if it started when the touching her self started then i would be concerned and take her to a doctor but other wise that’s normal for children.
It’s completely normal!
No reason to think that something bad has happened, it is just a phase most toddlers go through.
My daughter has been touching herself down there since a long time ago and she is only 22 months. I does freak me out and we try to keep her hands out when we change her diapers, I have been told it is quite normal. She likes to take the desitin and try to apply it on herself too!
It is totally normal, I had the same problem with my daughter and my pediatrician said just to tell her to do it in her room by herself not infront of people. Don’t tell her no or it’s nasty, she will grow up with insecurities. Don’t let her be embarassed of her body.
It is perfectly normal for her to TOUCH herself there. If that was all it is, I wouldn’t be worried. However, taking the barbie doll’s clothes off and rubbing herself with it is troubling. I would have her pediatrician do some kind of an exam (you’d be surprised what they can tell). I’d also drop in on her daycare (please don’t call it a school) unexpectedly and ask to see the entire facility. If the caregiver’s refuse, take her out immediately.
Additionally, I would look for any other peculiar signs in your daughter.
Hi,
I think your daughter is pick-it-up from watching t.v./movies.
you need to go library and get book sit down talk to her What that is ( i know it feeling scared you) the doctor will only help if there any like rush/feeling wrong Little down there. there lots of sport player do that maybe she pick up from there or some where.
she just found her self and now she is in that stage just like little boys like to touch themselves after they find it. I have a niece and she use to rub herself on stuff and it was embarrasing but she got through it
funnny to see this question my friend and i were talking about school/daycares and how some of the kids do things like touch each other or rub on each other. (my friend works at a daycare and her son has been in one since he was little) He humps things and there have been odd instances with him around my kids. I don’t feel comfortable leaving him alone with my children because of it. She may be learning it from another child if that kid had experienced anything like that.
Omg I know what you mean my lil sis did the same thing she went to the bathroom came out naked with a marker sat on the floor spreaded her legs and tried to stick it up her it was really disturbing we just explained that she shouldn’t be doing that