How did your marital problems negatively effect your parenting?
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Question: How did your marital problems negatively effect your parenting?
For the divorced people out there, when you were still in your marriage and fighting with your spouse, did your parenting skills suffer? Were you short with your kids or less affectionate because you were just so unhappy in general?
ANSWER:
Answer by Ranjan
On the contrary, during the divorce process I came very close to my Son and my love for him increased…that trend is still continued and he is the only person whom I can trust more than myself…Divorce process brought him close to me, too…but it left a very wrong impression on his mind, about my Ex…Now, he is not interested in having any relation other than his Father…
Answer by hot lips
I cherished my son even more and tried to sheild him in every was possible from the constant arguments that I was having with his dad.
Answer by Lynn
In my situation, I became more affectionate and more tolerant of my children, because they became my support during the rough times. However, I do think that I sent them the wrong message by not ending it sooner. I’m pretty sure (by staying in a bad situation so long), that I taught them that being unhappy is right and normal, for the sacrifice of having a family. It’s not, and people need to realize children sense unhappiness, and only you as a parent can change that. The most important thing was for me to keep reassuring them that it wasn’t in any way their fault.
Answer by They Don’t Like Me!
This is my opinion.
Children learn about life first hand from their parents. If a man beats his wife and his son sees this, the odds are that the son will in turn grow up to beat his wife. The same can be said of a little girl who witnesses abuse. She will probably grow up and find someone who beats her. But why?
Kids think everything their parents do is what is suppose to be done. This is why it is important to set good examples for children, because they learn from us. If they live in a home where the parents do not love each other, fuss and fight or even get physical, they will grow up thinking that those experiences are what “right” looks like.
I am sure that divorce can damage a child, can probably disturb their sense of security and probably even give them issues of abandonment, but also know families that are dysfunctional for what ever reason also give children issues, at times worse issues than a divorce can give. I say that a child should grow up in a home that is full of love, and life be that in a 2 family home or a single person home.
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