Answer this then! I asked about toddler tantrums, this is for all the know it alls that answered.?
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Question: Answer this then! I asked about toddler tantrums, this is for all the know it alls that answered.?
You all answered with yes it annoys me when toddlers throw tantrums, it is unacceptable,. alright then geniuses tell me your magic way to make them stop, imagine you are smack in the middle of shopping, your trolley is almost full, and all of a sudden they ask for something, you say no, they start screaming and carrying on, What do you magicaly do to make them stop.
And ignoring them isnt an option because you have all said how inconsiderate it is to just let them go.
The following is the answer:
Answer by daheinousanus
You leave your trolley where you can retrieve it, take your child outside, and let them continue their tantrum.
Don’t get all holier than thou about those who’ve answered. Your brat is unique, just like everyone elses.
Answer by ezcumezgo1225
I can relate to you 100%. And they listen to their father more then me and you get tired of threats, but I know that my 2&3 year old hate standing in the corner. Stop what you are doing and find the closest thing to a corner that you can and make them stand there. One minute per every year that the child is. If that doesn’t work I would try bribary.
Answer by lyllyan
Leave the store. That’s right, leave the store. Your kid is doing this in a place he knows you will have no control over him.
Yes, it is darn invconvenient, but take your trolley up to customer service, apologize, and leave the store. Get in the car, go home and put the kid in time out, or in the corner or where ever. After he has calmed down you speak firmly about how you act in public and threaten to leave the store again should he try to pull the same stunt.
Answer by Jessica85
Do what the lady does on this advert get down on the floor and kick and scream yourself…HAHAH how embarressing.
Nah just kidding….
Say if your a good (boy/girl) you can have (whatever) when we pay for the shopping…
It worked for me
Answer by Kat
My advice to stop tantrums during shopping:
1. Don’t shop with your kids (this is not sarcastic — try late-night shopping once in a while for a break for you, or trade off babysitting with a friend so you can each have time to go shopping alone).
2. Don’t shop hungry, you or the toddler.
3. Be prepared to leave your full cart and come back later if the child throws a fit. This will work best if you do it without getting angry — matter of factly say, “Oh, no, you’re having a tantrum. I guess it’s time to go. Too bad we’ll have to leave all of this at the store.” Then go. It won’t take more than once or twice, if your kid knows that you’re serious, and that they’re not making you mad.
4. Plan with your child before-hand what they get to pick out. Sometimes my kids are told they’ll get a treat, but just having some say in the shopping is fun for them too: they like to pick out the fruit, yogurt, juice, cereal. It makes them feel like they’re helping.
5. Make shorter, more frequent shopping trips. Unless you’re out in the country, you can make two half-hour trips a week almost as easily as one hour-long trip.
6. Find a store with a play area. For example, in Washington State, Fred Meyer and Haggen stores offer day care for free, with trained caregivers, so you can shop in peace for an hour.
7. Model control by telling your child the one treat you plan to pick our for yourself, and then stick to it. You can point out other things you’d like (”That ___ looks yummy, but I already chose _____, so I guess I’ll save that for next time”) to show how we all have to make choices.
8. Be consistent. If you react to fits at home, they’ll try them other places, too. Be calm, be firm, be loving. But be consistent.
Good luck, and remember that toddlers get more reasonable in another year or so.
Answer by mamma of 4 : )
the same thing that Kat says. I have used these systems myself. I have 4 kids 2 older ones and 2 babies. I enjoy going shopping by myself it gives me “me time”. But i do have to say that if you reward your child don’t reward with an expensive toy though.
Answer by llllll_amanda_lllllll
Ignore the tantrum because its just attention seeking behavior. When my daughter does this we stand her in a corner until shes done and then she had to come and apologize. Most of the time all we have to ask is “do you want to go to the corner” and no tantrum
dont let people get to you on here. If you dont want peoples honest answers and opinions then dont post on a public forum.
Answer by Jennifer B
I would say you have a couple of options. . . .
1. Aviod busy times in stores where tantrums are a problem
2. Find a babysitter when you go out so you can have “big kid time”. . . not a pun, that’s what I call it when I’m going to lose my mind and am too frustrated to fight with a toddler
3. Just accept that this is part of being a toddler, becuase they have a hard time communicating their feelings like older children and adults do. . . that’s part of being a toddler, their still learning.
4. Often, tantrums are not becuase they “want” something, usually they are overtired, hungry, or bored, so address your problems there. We go for our outings after a good nap, a meal, and we take snacks and a favorite toy only for trips. All I can say is give it a try. I have very few trips where tantrums are a problem when I do this one. Just make sure the tantrums aren’t because something hurts or your toddler is sick or teething.
5. Take a friend along to keep your little one busy in the toys section so you can get your shopping done (or drop them off at the park for an hour). . . this one is a life saver. Besides, grandma’s LOVE fun baby time.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I know that there are times when you have to run to the store now and it’s not the “perfect” time to go, but most of the time, this should work.
Just a peice of advice, if you are they type to verbally express your annoyance with tantrums, get down to their level (physically) and keep it short and simple, because about 30 seconds is their attention span. Something like “We don’t do that in public. If you don’t stop, we’re leaving.” And then stick to it, bc empty threats do nothing.
Just think of it this way. . . in ten years is it going to matter what someone else thinks about your baby’s tantrum in the middle of WalMart. . . tears, screaming and all? Because sooner or later, most of those “annoyed” people will have kids and empathize with you.
Answer by Mariana H
I love kat’s answer.
Answer by Freedom
LEAVE THE CART RIGHT THERE AND TAKE THEM OUT THE STORE!!!
Be firm and consistent. They will eventually get the point. And please dont give in and buy what they want because they will try it every time
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